Hi Reddit, I'm posting this anonymously, so fake names, because I don't want to worry anyone in my/his family, but this is an emergency and I could really use some advice.
As the title states, my boyfriend Sam lost his job recently. He was a manager of a parts store and a damn good employee, working more than required (often 50+ hours despite being contracted for 40), covering shifts, driving hours away when his boss asked him to attend meetings, and putting in 110% daily. He got promoted when his old manager was leaving, and the district manager told Sam (a store emplyee) he was first in line to have it, even though other managers applied. Just some examples to show he was a star employee everyone liked.
On the 16th (I think, the days have run together) Sam showed up to work only to be fired for "unsatisfactory work ethic". No warnings, no improvement meeting, nothing. I should note, Sam's district manager recently left and the new district manager, upon meeting Sam for the first time at a management meeting, did not like him, and make it clear with snide remarks and nitpicking things he did, even saying before Sam left for the day, "If this keeps up, we'll have to reevaluate your employment." Thier reasoning for firing him included him not answering work emails (which are on the computer at his work), and not following a bunch of protocols (that Sam said he never heard of or was trained not to follow). I plan on emailing HR for a copy of his departure letter.
That day, I got a knock on my door, and its someone from his store informing me Sam was in the Emergency Room. After rushing there, it was clear he was in bad shape: sweating, shaking, very high blood pressure, vomiting. It broke my heart to hear what happened and how badly he took the news. He was discharged that day, but was rushed back the next morning and was admitted to the ICU because he was going through withdrawls. The doctors told me Sam admitted he started drinking more when a close family member died 2 years ago, and work/financial stress pushed him to continue. I was completely blindsided by this.
The problem is we live together, and I quit my job about a year and a half ago (Sam and me both supported this). Sam has been the sole provider for a while, and now that he's lost his job I don't really know what to do. (I do take responsibility for not getting my ass in action before it spiraled to this, I should have had a job months ago despite Sam's objections.) We have bills and debt payments to pay, and I am looking and applying for every job I come across. I hope to be able to make enough to support us both for a while so he can rest and recover, and get the help he needs.
Any advice, suggestions, steps for us to take would be greatly appreciated. I'm very much in the dark right now. We live in West Tennessee for anyone wondering.
original posted by Ok-Wrangler-5980 to r/personalfinance on Sat, 20 Apr 2024 15:39:43 GMT.